One of my reasons for writing this blog is to clearly define in my own mind what my role is as Wife and Mother. I know myself well as musician, artist, baker, teacher, etc. But when it comes to these more complex roles, I’m a novice. So here at The Full Vine I explore my question daily: Who am I called to be in my home?
It would be impossible to really dig in to this in one post. So I’ll be writing a short series for the next few Mondays called “Wisdom Builds Her Home.”
Before I begin the series, I thought you might like to meet the other people living here in the House of Crazy. Jon is my husband.
We’ll have been married for 4 years this June. He is the love of my life, the answer to many prayers, and my best friend.
Our son is Riley, an 11 month-old explosion of smiles, energy, growling boy noises, mischief, and curiosity.
While he was in the womb, we called him “Long and Strong” and that hasn’t changed since.
We’re expecting another boy, whose name is a juicy secret until early-mid July!
Do you see the raging cuteness?! How can I not want to discover how to be the helper and holder I’m called to be for them?
Recently I read these verses in my devotions:
Proverbs 14:1 “A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.”
Proverbs 14:26 “He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for his children it will be a refuge.”
So much of Proverbs is written in the masculine. When a proverb directly addresses women, it makes me perk up and listen! Verse 26 tells me that my husband’s relationship with the Lord creates a unique protection for our kids. His security in Christ is a strength that our children will see as they grow up. Hopefully they’ll be drawn to it with a curiosity that will lead them to put their trust in Jesus for themselves.
I can help with that. My role as Helper must include building Jon up in his faith, and praying for him every day. But what about Verse 1? How do I act with this kind of wisdom? The house itself is constructed, painted, furnished. How do I “build my home”?
Four building blocks became apparent as I thought this through, and these will be the parts of this series:
Part 1: My Attitude
Part 2: My Hands, My Work
Part 3: My Prayer Life
Part 4: Teacher and Filter
My relationships with God, my husband, and my children create an environment that can either help or hinder the development of [a] good root system for my children. A secure, loving home is the fertile ground their tender roots need.
–Jean Fleming, “A Mother’s Heart”
So where do I even begin? I always wish I was miles and miles ahead in these things. But … would I want to miss the lessons God is going to teach me daily on the way? NO way. I’ll start by keeping Him in mind and being patient with myself.
I guess you can tell I think home matters a lot.
I pray that this series will help other moms as it helps me. A life poured out and lived to the full is the only kind worth living.